Love Stinks!

Best of luck to you, Jeff.

Felt good through much of the day.
But later in the evening tried to eat a bit more and it really hit me hard, with nausea.
Finally just got in bed. But had to run to the bathroom to dry heave for a while.
Got back in bed. Started getting really dizzy, and got spots in my vision. (This happens every now and again)

Wife tried to go to sleep.
But I was still having a lot of annoying symptoms. I have water and some granola type bars next to my bed. Tried to drink and eat some to get my sugar or whatever back in balance. (They suspect it might be hypoglycemic type episodes).
Still 'suffered' for about an hour.

Wife jumps up starts screaming that she is sick and tired of me being sick and she can't F'n take it anymore. (with a few variations on this theme) I told her I tried to be quiet and I did not feel well enough to leave the room beforehand, and also if I NEEDED her help it would have been nice to be close by in case. She goes to another room to sleep.

No apologies this morning. It's not like I have ANY control over my body and how it processes food and the symptoms that follow.

Sucks, but the stress is probably pretty bad on her. Not to get too "Alan Alda" but the whole struggle you have been through almost certainly has altered the way she thinks about you. There are counselors for reason. Good Luck.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/21/2009 07:33AM by stan adams.

I followed everything except an allusion to Alda. ????
Thanks... I think... :)

Prototypical "sensitive male"...

I thought that was Al Franken. :)
I guess I never saw him that way.
But now I get you.

Here is something to chew on.

Lately I have been working on a bunch of stuff financially that, had it panned out, would have really jumped us up a peg. Unfortunately it looks pretty dead and I did not have any monetary losses. It did, however consume a lot of time and emotional capital.

I say this as background. I will also note that even if I did not pursue these opportunities I am not Mr. Ideal Husband of a Working Spouse, but neither am I the worst. Sorta somewhere toward the "before" Micheal Keaton in Multiplicity I am often a pizza eating slob, a sex crazed fiend, a frenzied doer of things, as well as occasionally a pretty sweet guy that will do the laundry without being asked.

Any how Mrs. Adams (not her real name...) has her moments of not dealing well with my faults and lets her own faults grow larger in her mind than they need to. So in one of her "soul clearing" moments she says, a bit hesitantly, "when we are doing you know what and my eyes are closed I am sometimes thinking it is Esteban from my office". My reaction was muted, and I inquired as to how serious she was. Not too, apparently, but also not completely made up as she did further relate that on a past business trip an opportunity did sorta open itself, but not really. As she related, along with about five other colleagues at dinner Esteban may have flirted /made some sort of pass. Nothing came of it and he even later denied knowing what she was talking about. More stuff to consider: Esteban has a wife and daughter that my wife also knows. Aricela is a lovely woman that is well educated, looks fantastic, but travels a lot. I suspect that Esteban is a bit lonely, but too smart to do anything to jeopardize his great job / life and I am pretty sure that Mrs. Adams feels the same way.

So, I guess I'm looking for a way to "turn up the nice" a little, quench any longings, be a better husband, etc. Oh, btw I really have to work my ass off at work as my distraction has been noted in a not so nice (but not fatal...) way by my boss. Other than that things are peachy. Really. Love the kids, mostly like the actual work, money stuff is good etc...



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/14/2009 07:48AM by stan adams.

I got nothing. Nice didn't get me anywhere.

Nice = doormat

Don't be the doormat.

Use nice to lure them in.
Then cocky to drop them.

That's all I got. :)

Be aloof, interesting, charming...

Nah, I got nothing either.

I always followed Steve Martin's Advice:

I'll agree with don't be a doormat (I spent years as a doormat, and look where it got me). Beyond that--like others, I wish I had some advice. Sorry, Stan.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 08/17/2009 08:29AM by Jeff Cooper.

Oh, things are not that bad. I am very good at creating a "virtual man cave" and my spouse does not like that. Come to think of it my son (starting first grade in a few weeks...) is also awfully good as this behavior, no doubt learned quickly at my side. Best to redirect energies of both of us ASAP... (or at least figure out a way to let mom/wife feel that we are doing the dumb things we do with electronic entertainment devices as infrequently as possible..._)

supreme ugggh

Uh oh.

just found out today my childhood best friend just left his wife of about 20 years.
This surprises the heck out of me.
Also I heard he is seeing the mom of my nephew's EX-girlfriend. She is I think older than us. He and I are a week apart in age.

I do not keep in touch with him, I am sure the next "catching up" will be an odd one.

A 20 year marriage is a good run IMO...

Certainly "better than average."

So, I just realized that I'm old. Damn. I'm try out one of them new fangled on-line dating thingamabobs and noticed that the women replying where all around 50. Shit, what's with the old ladies I thought? THen I looked at my my profile. 48? When the fuck did that happen? I'm nearly 50? I'm supposed to be dating Grandmas? WTF?
Ok, I've always dated younger women. I married one over 10 years younger. But 50? Even my age or a year or so younger, you all look, well, OLD.

Can I buy you a beer?