Love Stinks!

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El Jeffe
I think text/communication is inherently poor at discussions which can have an emotional investment.

Exchanging emails (or even forum posts...) is certainly not a true discussion. Heck even exchanging written communication back and forth, which I suppose falls under the broadest definition of a dialogue ( http://www.merriam-webster.com/netdict/dialogue ) is never going to have the subtlety of emotion that can had through even a phone conversation, but in some ways that is the point -- when I write something like "Sweetie when you make a change of plans on me and do not have a cell phone to let me know where you or the kids are I feel a lot like Han and Lea in the trash compactor when Luke gets pulled under by the garbage snake. You might be gone for good. You might be struggling for your life. You might pop up at any minute and I don't want to have a blaster ready to fire upon whatever pulled you away..." If she wants to read some humor into that OR if she wants to sense the on screen panic that was inherent in that sense it is up to her. That part actually seems to work really well.

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stan adams
I don't want to have a blaster

That's good. I could recommend an alternative... not so clumsy, or random as a blaster...

Then again, I cry so much no one can understand what I'm saying. :)

See it works. Now JW and I can move to CT, IA, ME, MA,NH, or VT, watch Star Wars all day and live happily ever after...

Just so the universe can prove who's boss, my relationship melted down this past weekend.
She told me that she was afraid to see me because of how I made her feel. Now what is one supposed to do with that, I ask? I couldn't cope with it very well.
Still talking, but very unsure what the future holds.

Sorry, man.

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She told me that she was afraid to see me because of how I made her feel.

I hate ambiguous lines like that. Did she elaborate on whether she felt giddy, nauseous, excited, terrified?

"It's not me, it's you" is just so much more honest...

Wow, normally it's us guys who are relationship-phobic... Sorry to hear, Phred. Either you're making her homicidal (in which case less physical presence is good) or you're making her all tingly but she considers that a bad thing (in context of whatever demons and angels you guys are exercising right now) (no, no typos there).

Bleh. Hang in there though. You probably already have better definition of what those feelings are than are posted here, so if you're still talking that's a good thing.

All IMO of course.

Ha, that did sound strange, didn't it? she says that she doesn't know if she's ready to feel for someone like she feels about me. So it's good that I illicit strong feelings, but bad that she doesn't know what to do about it. But relationships are never easy. We obviously all know that. yet we all pursue them.

Ah. The "I've been hurt before" angle. If you don't want to get hurt, get a pet.

Sorry, bitter today...

And I thought most folks wake up feeling refreshed from a nice dose of Flunitrazepam ... I kid, I kid!

Obviously it is not something you want to hear, like "You're too good to me. I'm just not ready for this, I didn't know I could feel this way" but probably better than hearing after an even longer period time / greater level of commitment.


Try and keep perspective and have fun for its own sake.

Oh fuck that was classy. She just broke up with me. Via a fucking text.

Could my love life BE any more pathetic?

Jesus, that blows.

Ben Folds Five - Song For the Dumped

So you wanted to take a break?
Slow it down some, and have some space?
Well fuck you too!
Give me my money back, give me my money back, you bitch.
I want my money back.
You fucking whore! [*and don't forget]
Wish I hadn't bought you dinner, right before you dumped me on your front porch.
Give me my money back, give me my money back, you bitch.
I want my money back.
You fucking whore! [*and don't forget]
And don't forget to give me back my black T-Shirt.
So you wanted to take a break?
Slow it down some, and have some space? [**Well fuck you too!]
Give me my money back,
Give me my money back, give me my money back, you bitch.
I want my money back.
I want my money back.
I want my money back.
I want my black T-Shirt.
I want my black T-Shirt.

Awful, Phred. Sorry.

So sorry, Phred.

Thanks guys. And great song.

Phred,

I've dealt with that type of bullshit before. The whole "I'm scared, I like you too much" etc. I never understood what they wanted as an alternative. Better to treat them like a jerk so they didn't have to worry about ever having those sorts of feelings? And then she didn't have the guts to break it off in person. That's the fucking worst.

Phred,

The mp3 is out there somewhere - I could email you my copy.

TL

Break-up by text is incredibly gutless and rude. You're better off without, even if it doesn't feel like it now.