Love Stinks!
ghidorah
– December 14, 2007 05:46PM
We all know it. This is the spot to get it off your chest.
John Willoughby
– March 02, 2009 08:12AM
Homo Sapiens Sedentarius
Maintain personal contact; it's easy to retreat into minimal interaction. And once you go too far down that road, there's no going back. Even if that seems desirable at this low point, don't let simple emotional reaction to provocation decide the future of the relationship. If things must change, make the decision in cold blood, logically.
Sorry. Just looking back at my life and wishing I'd done some things differently. Not that things are over here, by a long shot. But I could have managed some things better.
ddt
– March 02, 2009 08:45AM
that's good advice, jw. sorry to hear that you have regrets, but there's always some hope.
next time (if there is a next time), i'll try to keep in mind that both sides have to keep "proving" things ongoing. all the things you do when wooing, being great, you have to keep up from time to time.
some books (actually based in good science) that have been interesting lately: "why we love" (terrible title) by helen fischer, "the how of happiness" (also terrible title) by a woman with an incredibly russian name.
ddt
Jeff Cooper
– March 02, 2009 04:33PM
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John Willoughby
Maintain personal contact; it's easy to retreat into minimal interaction. And once you go too far down that road, there's no going back.
This is good advice, and I wish I'd received it four or five years ago. I fear we're too far gone, now.
Hang in there Tony.
tliet
– March 03, 2009 06:52PM
Reading that I wonder how much these men do, to make sure that their spouses will get in the mood. Females look very different to sex as men do and while men can have sex when there's just been a huge fight for example, it doesn't go down well with women is my experience.
In my personal experience though, the biggest turn off is living together.
John Willoughby
– March 03, 2009 07:03PM
Homo Sapiens Sedentarius
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tliet
go down well with women
Heh.
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El Jeffe
– March 14, 2009 04:06PM
What a journey.
!!!!!
Jeff Cooper
– March 15, 2009 05:51PM
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tliet
In my personal experience though, the biggest turn off is living together.
You know, I have a good friend from college who had a disastrous first marriage. He remarried about three years ago, and he and his wife are ecstatically happy still. They don't live together. Coincidence?
(Now, this guy's a former roommate, so I can personally attest that not living with him is probably the better option....)
tliet
– March 15, 2009 05:57PM
Interesting, to be married and not live together, haven't tried that one. I haven't tried being married and living together either. I like not living together, if you haven't seen each other for a day or two, it's nice to see and feel each other again.
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Tony Leggett
(Moderator)
– March 15, 2009 09:26PM
That's a novel idea...
Familiarity certainly breeds contempt. I really do regret moving in together so soon.
My s.o. was away for the weekend and I certainly enjoyed the quiet time. The only problem with that is such "holidays" become expensive.
I do find I am trying to find excuses to get out of the house (by myself, that is). Tomorrow is St Patricks day, for example.
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John Willoughby
– April 08, 2009 04:15PM
Homo Sapiens Sedentarius
Good luck.'
stan adams
– April 09, 2009 08:55AM
Hills and valleys, and lots and lots of plains. Talking is better than the alternative. Best of luck. I'm coming up on "lucky 13", two dogs (both on the other side of the rainbow now) two kids, thinking about our third house purchase, yet some days I think "maybe living by myself would be an option"...
El Jeffe
– April 09, 2009 11:25AM
What a journey.
Sales job that has one jetting away each week would combine the two. (away/home)
Mokers
(Moderator)
– April 09, 2009 11:43AM
Formerly Remy Martin
Dating a single mom. That baby monitor creeps me out.
El Jeffe
– April 09, 2009 11:55AM
What a journey.
Now what on earth can creep you out about a baby monitor?
Mokers
(Moderator)
– April 09, 2009 12:03PM
Formerly Remy Martin
Sometimes it, uh, breaks my concentration.
El Jeffe
– April 09, 2009 01:01PM
What a journey.
Breaking concentration can be good.... staying power.
ddt
– April 09, 2009 01:10PM
ah, that kind of dating.
ddt
Dr Phred
(Moderator)
– April 09, 2009 01:15PM
-Swine Flu free since...cough, cough...
Also can remind you of the consequences. That'll deflate you quicker than a pufferfish in a cactus farm.
Mokers
(Moderator)
– April 09, 2009 02:19PM
Formerly Remy Martin
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ddt
ah, that kind of dating.
ddt
There was dinner beforehand. And conversation.
El Jeffe
– April 09, 2009 02:51PM
What a journey.
stop avoiding the question, sir!
